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Subject:Open letter to firecrackergrrl
Time:12:07 am
Because she's too much of a coward to engage in open debate and must engage in passive-aggressive bullshit:

I'm childfree because I'm too smart to waste my life being a fat, useless, idiot housewife. Unlike some who feel their only value to society lies in being a brood mare and squeezing out a litter of screaming brats who can continue to use up the world's resources because another selfish idiot needs to contribute their crappy DNA to make another consumer and contribute to an already overburdened population.

I will have fun. You enjoy cleaning vomit and feces off your carpet, while I'll go spend my disposable income on my 3rd trip to Europe in 2 years.

kthxbye!
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dstroy
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Time:2009-07-19 04:45 pm (UTC)
wow. um... I never took issue with your childfree status..but is that what you think of me?
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pfc_rat
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Time:2009-07-19 07:17 pm (UTC)
Not at all, I was taking extreme issue to her statement that people are only childfree because they're too stupid to have kids, and unless you breed, you have nothing positive to contribute to society.

I see parents in one of two categories; smart people who take a genuine interest in raising their kids, teaching them manners, instilling discipline, confidence, and making their kids contributing members of society.

The other are selfish idiots who raise entitled brats and think the world revolves around them. Kids who scream for hours in a restaurant because their parents never tell them to be quiet, who are violent, badly behaved and stupid because teaching a kid good behaviour would "destroy their self-esteem".

This woman is definitely one of the latter, one who thinks being a parent means everyone should do the work for her, because she's far too busy and important to do anything for herself.

I absolutely think that you're one of the former - your kids are smart, and well-behaved, and you take an enormous amount of time and interest in raising your kids and instilling in them the values and skills to be functional members of society.

I didn't mean for this to come across as an attack on all parents, it's just enormously frustrating to see more and more awful, bratty, entitled kids and parents out there and that these monsters are going to be the next generation. I've never thought of you like that, and in fact the reason I added you in the first place is because you give me hope that there are some good parents out there who are raising good kids.
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surrey_sucks
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Time:2009-07-19 09:01 pm (UTC)
her statement that people are only childfree because they're too stupid to have kids, and unless you breed, you have nothing positive to contribute to society.

What?! She sounds like a stupid cunt.

I am child free, however, I have no problem with (responsible) people who have kids. We need people to have children so that we don't need to! I know that I would be a lousy mother, so instead of inflicting that on my kids, like my parents did, I am being responsible and saving a child a life of misery. I would rather be an aunt than a mother!
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dstroy
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Time:2009-07-20 12:33 am (UTC)
Uh... that says more about the person making such ridiculous comments to have someone make infer that it's some sort of *REQUIREMENT* to have kids. That's just absurd, and on a whole bunch of different levels.
Don't let idiots like that make you feel like you have to justify your choices, particularly on something like the huge responsibilities that are associated with rearing a healthy and socially adjusted human being.
While I personally don't envy anyone who made different choices, I am also acutely aware that it's totally not something for everyone. And beyond that, it's a fucked up thing to say in general, since for some it's not even an option - does she think people that have health reasons not to have kids and choose not to pass on genetic problems are "stupid" too? THAT is stupid.
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masterofsexnsin
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Time:2009-07-20 04:14 am (UTC)
As one that has 3 kids, I can tell you that I am in complete agreement with your opinion. I too believe that there are those who WANT to be an attentive parent and concider all the responsibilities and then there are those who THINK that having offspring is a rite of passage.

You are more of a woman for knowing yourself instead of hiding behind some warped sense of social pressure to procreate. True feminism is knowing there are choices and then MAKING them - whatever they are.

Thank you for sharing your viewpoint and taking a stand.
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