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Subject:New babies
Time:12:19 pm
OK, most of you should know my childfree status at this point. But I know some of you guys have kids, and I'm kind of wondering about an etiquette thing. Lately it seems like tons of people are having babies. So, when you have a baby, some people send out birth announcements, I suppose. A cutesy card with a picture of the baby and vital statistics, and such.

Now, I'm getting these from people I don't even know, and have never met. Like, relatives of relatives. Like, the daughter of my sister-in-law's godparents. I don't even know her name.

So, what's up with that? Are they expecting me to send a gift (not like I'm going to), is that why these announcements go out? Is it just the new parent OMG LOOK AT MI KID thing?

What the hell?
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twfarlan
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Time:2009-03-23 08:06 pm (UTC)
My understanding is that it's not so much a "send me a gift!" thing as a "I have contributed to the miraculous process of childbirth; worship my child and through it, me" thing.

Ignore them or respond with some polite congratulatory tone as you will.
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coanteen
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Time:2009-03-23 08:10 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I think it's just the "lookie my kid" thing. I don't even send gifts to close relatives for those, only a nice email note. If it was people I didn't know, I'd ignore it completely.
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raxxius
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Time:2009-03-23 08:12 pm (UTC)
While I'm childfree as well, I can tell you I've been told it's just a "Hey look - new chillun!" thing. Baby shower = gifts, card = "Look what I did!"
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uncacreamy
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Time:2009-03-23 08:59 pm (UTC)
Uhh. I pressed the 'friends' link while on someone else's journal, and saw this post! The deal is the same with Weddings. "These people are vaguely related to me, here is an announcement of a major life change". Some people feel that they need to update ALL their relatives, and so will send these out. I think the response most people are looking for (if at all, since you're a really distant relative), is a card saying 'Congrats!'. If they wanted gifts out of you, they'd have invited you to a baby shower.
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eva_prawn
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Time:2009-03-23 09:21 pm (UTC)
I wouldn't send a gift if you barely know them.

From the pregnant side of the fence- I am really trying to avoid this kind of thing. My mom wants to invite everyone I've ever met since I was 5 to my baby shower, for instance. I have had to tell her no and put my foot down, it is not fair for someone I haven't seen in 15 years to have to buy me a present, period. I'm really trying to keep things to people who are actively in my life or relatives I actually see. I don't even know if we will send out birth announcements, I figure the people who should know about it will. Otherwise they'll know when they see the kid. Ha. Maybe I am uncouth.
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surrey_sucks
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Time:2009-03-23 10:36 pm (UTC)
I'm getting these from people I don't even know, and have never met.

What the hell?
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masterofsexnsin
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Time:2009-03-23 11:17 pm (UTC)
I am terrible at the whole sending pictures thing to relatives much less friends. So to hear people are sending you this birth announcement to whom you don't even know is quite bizzare.

I would guess that they got excited in buying the package thing while in the hospital (when the photographer comes around - they do that here in AZ) that they had so many so figure to send 'em out to ANYONE they remotely know. Just sayin'.

I would not, however, send a gift of any sort to such persons. I would, if they included an email, send a brief note and let them know you received the unexpected card and congratulate them on going thru the birthing process.

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